Thursday, 31 October 2013

Choices Offered By Cemeteries In NJ

By Marsha Klein


Unexpectedly losing someone you love can be devastating. Facing difficult decisions in addition to the pain of loss can be harrowing. The stress of making final arrangements in a timely manner, outlining the financial aspects and grieving all the while, can take a toll on you. This article will provide you the framework in which you can use to make difficult decisions during this time. The good news is that cemeteries in NJ offer choices to make the process less arduous.

Based on the wishes of you, your family members and of the recently departed, you must determine whether cremation, burial or a mausoleum best fits your needs. Discuss this with your family. If you are still unsure, speak with the cemetery organizer or director. Petition the director for lists of options and prices.

Choosing the burial plot, you will need to consider location and some other factors. If your loved one was someone who enjoyed being outside in the sunlight, choose a plot that will receive direct sun for most of the day. If they loved flowers, you might choose a plot that is adjacent to flowering shrubbery. Most cemeteries will provide upkeep of the grounds.

Cremation allows you the opportunity to bring the ashes of your loved one with you. Request a price list, with pictures of urns for the ashes to be placed. You may also request a price list if you wish to have the urn to be publicly displayed in a niche, designed for this purpose. Speak with family regarding placement of the urn.

If you choose above ground burial, request information on mausoleums. This option provides the final resting place to be displayed above ground in a public or private area. Once you have made this determination, you then need to decide whether the mausoleum should be indoor or outdoor. Some mortuaries allow for small mausoleums to be built outside on their property.

In New Jersey, embalming must take place after 48 hours have passed. Choosing not to embalm means that the burial decisions must be made in a very short amount of time. Speak with your undertaker to determine the most effective solutions. After 48 hours, the body must be embalmed, according to state laws.

Once you have established the type of final disposition, you need to select any monuments, gravestones or markers. It is beneficial for you to go through the lists you received from your provider. Take your time. Communicate with members of the family. Remember that this choice will be the one that shows the world how you wish to remember the one you loved.

If your family member was a humanitarian, and made regular donations to a charity, consider making donations in lieu of flowers. Speak with family members and determine what is best. The director may be able to give you guidance as to which charities would be appropriate, if you are unsure.

When you are concerned about which cemeteries in NJ to use, make several phone calls. Call several different establishments. Request itemized price lists and information. Include family members in the decision making process. Remember your loved one's wishes as you walk through the process.




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