1.
Whenever someone is angry
and confrontational, stand next to them instead of in front of them. You won't
appear as so much of a threat, and they eventually calm down.
2.
Open with "I need your
help." People don't like the guilt of not helping someone out. When asking
for a favour from someone, begin your request by saying "I need your
help." It greatly increases your chances of getting that favour done.
3.
Rephrase what the other
person says and repeat it back to them. This makes them think you're listening
and really interested in what they're saying. It makes them feel validated.
Obviously, you don't want to overdo this.
4.
If you want someone to
agree with you, nod while you talk. This gets the other person to nod too and
they begin to subconsciously think they agree with you.
5.
If someone doesn't like
you, ask to borrow a pencil. It is a small enough favour that they won't say
no, and it gets them to like you more. Check out the Benjamin Franklin effect
for more explanation.
6.
Fold your arms to determine
interest. If someone is observing you, they will likely mimic you. Fold your
arms, and see if they do it, too.
7.
Repeat a person's name many
times during a conversation. It helps you remember it, and makes them like you
more.
8.
If you ask someone to do
you a small favour, cognitive dissonance will make them believe that because
they did that favour, they therefore must like you. Benjamin Franklin effect
9.
If you ask someone a
question and they only partially answer just wait. If you stay silent and keep
eye contact they will usually continue talking.
10.
Chew gum when you're
approaching a situation that would make you nervous like public speaking or
bungee jumping. Apparently if we are 'eating' something in our brains trip and
it reasons 'I would not be eating if I were danger. So I'm not in danger'.
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