Monday, 25 November 2013

Get Her Back From The Other Guy

By Paula Choi


Being patient when trying to get back together with your girlfriend is difficult. There's no question about it. You worry that someone else is going to come along and scoop her up, if that isn't the case already. You worry that she's going to forget about you.

First, you're never going to be able to convince your ex girlfriend or your wife to come back to you. Breaking up with you was her decision and she is going to have to think that getting back together is her decision also. Respect her decision to leave you. You can never really win an argument with a woman and even if you win, you've lost. Hounding her and wanting to discuss what went wrong and how you think the relationship can be fixed only shows that you don't respect her decision. When the time comes and she decides that she wants to get back together, you'll respect that decision, correct?

Since you're broken up right now, chances are that you haven't been yourself for some time. During the time leading up to the breakup and after your breakup you have probably been acting a little strange. Maybe you were so desperate to save your relationship that you acted a little crazy.

For instance, you have probably thought long and hard about this. You want to make things right again between you and your girlfriend so you do what comes naturally. That means that you try apologizing at first. You may even mean it. You promise to change. You promise to never do whatever it was that you think caused your breakup or you promise to always do whatever it was that you didn't do that caused your breakup.

On the other hand, be on the lookout for requests for help when she does begin to feel something for you again. Often a woman won't come right out and say that she misses you or that she is thinking about you after a breakup. She might find a lame excuse to call you for advice or ask for your help with something. Don't allow yourself to be used, of course, but look for these openings as a sign that she is beginning to miss you.

You can create that same kind of connection. You had that connection with her at one time. Sure, things went a little sideways in your relationship and it's quite possible that at this point she isn't talking with you but all that can change.

A real plan to get your girlfriend back should be based upon female psychology and what a woman needs to feel in order to overcome the biggest hurdle that confronts you right now which is the fact that she broke up with you. She has told all of her friends and family that she is done with you. That is going to be a big obstacle to overcome so you're going to have to speak to her emotions. Her decision is going to have to be an emotional one. She is going to have to want you more than she might be embarassed to tell everyone that she is getting back together with you.

It might require that you be a little devious or clever in your tactics but if she was in love with you before it is absolutely possible for her to fall in love with you again. The decision is yours to make but if your wife or your girlfriend was your best friend in the world, don't you think that a little patience and understanding what she needs to feel to fall in love again is in order?




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