Wednesday 26 August 2009

Is Space In Your Relationship Needed?

By Andyl Bergerl

How much space in a relationship is necessary? The answer depends a lot on the type of relationship it is, and each person in it. Some people do better when they're together constantly, and others crave more of their own space in a relationship.

The hard part is finding a happy medium that both people are comfortable with. This is made more difficult when you each have very different ideas about togetherness and space. But as long as you can compromise on the level of space in a relationship that you both need, then you can work through this challenge.

Some people don't like to be alone. They're much happier spending all their time with coworkers, friends, family and their partner. When they're alone and doing things on their own they feel a little lost and lonely.

While others love to be sociable, there are others who love solitude. They are just happy to do things alone without the feeling of doing things for others which makes them exhausted easily at times.

Those two examples were rather extreme in some levels but majority of the people lie in the middle. They want time together and they also want to have a little space in the relationship once in a while.

So if both of you have met on the same ground, th easier it will be to be able to define where the spaces will be in the relationship. If however both of you are extreme and luckily on the same extreme side, then it will also be easier since both of you will certainly agree on the terms of space you both want.

The problems that arise is when one of you cannot agree on certain things. If you love having a bigger space and your partner does not like the time alone so much, then you both must be able to come into a compromise to be able to come into a common ground and when discussing with your partner, be sure to understand each others point of view then try to come up with terms in which both of you can agree on.

When both sides of the relationship are not open in communicating often, the space in between them can be a problem and also difficult to handle without both parties coming up with an agreement. If you are the solidarity type of person and your partner is the opposite, your partner may feel not loved due to your insistence of wanting to be alone.

If you love being with your partner all the time and your partner likes to have quality alone time frequently then your presence can affect their composure and will misinterpret your presence as a lack of trust and they will also think that you are around them so much to be able to monitor all their movements.

Both the situations can really cause problems to your relationship but all you have to do is initiate in opening up your thoughts to them. Express what you want and let them express theirs too. It is important that both of you can understand each others feelings.

So you need to be able to understand and let them understand also that the space should be agreeable to the both of you.

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