Friday, 12 June 2009

Relationship Advice - Stop Conflict The Happy Way

By John Laney

Conflict and arguments can end a relationship. However, is there some relationship advice that can make a difference fast?

There is, and it can be fun. However, before we get into that, it's important to see that conflict is normal in healthy relationships. Two adults with different viewpoints and needs will argue from time to time. It's gonna happen.

There is a lot you can learn about fighting "fair," and turning conflict into caresses, while getting both your needs met in the relationship. But this article will focus on how to stop fighting before it can even erupt. Is there any way to stop battling in a relationship before it even begins?

Many times, yes! A study done on couples found this:

Play can stop fighting at the source. The more play in your relationship, the less arguing.

Does that sound obvious or what? The more the two of you play together, the less you will tend to have conflict about all the little things. And the better you will deal with other differences that do arise. It's almost too simple, isn't it? When you "play" with your mate, you will be less irritable and less likely to get upset about all the problems that can arise in a relationship.

Therefore, some simple relationship advice is that if you want to stop conflict before it arises, you need to add more play back into your relationship. The more you add back in, the more you will begin to notice a lessening of anger and argument between you.

So how much do you play in your relationship at this current time? And what do you do together as a couple that you really like and have fun doing? How often do you play and have fun with your mate?

In the beginning of our relationship, we played a lot. We went to dinner, movies, on long walks. We did lots of things together that we both really enjoyed. But then, as time rolls on, we may have got filled up with the pressures of family life and making a living and stopped have much fun with our partner. It's easy to see that the less play, the more fighting.

When the play goes, we are left with more conflict.

So if you have more fighting and arguing in your love life, you've probably stopped playing as much as you used to. To reverse this trend, follow this pleasurable relationship advice: start adding in more play. Schedule more play time together doing some of the things you both enjoy. Just one play night a week can start to change things. Play is quality time. When you have playtime, you'll likely notice its a powerful way to stop conflict at the source.

It's a happy way to stop conflict, don't you think?

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