Wednesday, 19 February 2014

3 Tips To Make Your Ex Call You

By Alexandra Peterson


The need to talk to your ex can be overwhelming at times. The urge to call your ex and want to talk about what went wrong in your relationship can turn to frustration if your ex is avoiding your calls. Is there a way to force your ex to return your call or make your ex pick up the phone when you call?

Surely, talking on the phone is the first step to getting back together with your ex, right? After all, how can you possibly talk about reuniting if your ex won't communicate with you. The problem is that your ex has no desire to talk about getting back together right now. This is why they're avoiding your calls. In order for you to connect with your ex again, you're going to have to be clever. You're going to have to be patient and these tricks will help you to get back in touch with your ex and have the two of you talking again in the shortest amount of time possible.

If you have been calling your ex a lot and leaving messages, you need to stop for a period of time. Your ex may be annoyed with all the phone calls and if you have been trying to convince your ex to talk about the breakup then they are going to avoid your calls completely. Nobody likes to talk about unpleasant things and although your ex made the decision to end your relationship, this is difficult for them also.

How long you wait before calling your ex again depends upon how often you have been trying to get in touch with them and how many messages you have left for them. All of this includes text messages and emails, also. Often a week is a sufficient amount of time to wait but if you have been calling multiple times a day since your breakup then it might take two weeks or more. Time has a healing effect on how we feel about others. Give your ex some time to begin to miss you and to forget about the fact that you have been trying to call them so often.

Your second step to further improve your chances of getting your ex to call you back should be to allow your life to become a bit of a mystery to everyone around you. It's not uncommon for an ex to try to find out what's going on in your life and how you're doing by talking to your mutual friends. You might think that your ex would never do something like this but it happens and you should be prepared for this. This is why it's important that you avoid talking about your desire to get back together with your ex or how much you miss your ex. Your life should appear as normal as possible and you should avoid letting the world know about your feelings by posting sad messages on your social networking profiles. Your mysterious life will make your ex become curious as a cat about how you're doing and what you're up to.

You can leverage your social networking profile by posting funny pictures that you find that improve your mood or optimistic songs that make you happy. If you find it difficult to resist the temptation to post songs that remind you of your ex or status updates that are sad or depressing then it's better to do nothing at all.

Lastly, while you might have a craving to hear your that voice that you love so much, initiating contact through text messages would be a better way to get in touch the first time. Text messages will allow you to restrain yourself and say what you need to say no matter what your emotional state might be. Your ex knows you very well and they will be able to tell if you are upset or nervous when they hear your voice. Text messages have also become almost an unspoken rule these days in our society as the way of initiating contact after there has been conflict in a relationship.

Keep it simple and avoid the temptation to tell your ex that you love them or that you want to get back together. Don't even say that you're sorry. All you wish to accomplish is to get back in touch with your ex. This is just the first step towards a phone conversation where you can hear their voice. A simple message asking how they're doing or simply saying hello is all that is required. The response that you get will determine what you say next. You should try to match the frequency and tone of the conversation and avoid allowing this first step towards getting back together to turn into an argument. Be positive and optimistic and remember that it's best to keep things short and sweet. You can get your ex to call you by telling them that you have something funny to tell them but you don't have the patience to type it all. Avoid pressuring your ex and let them take the next step when they feel comfortable.

It can be frustrating to want to talk to your ex and to have them avoid your phone calls. You have lost your best friend in the world. Your ex was the person that you talked with when something wonderful happened as well as when something bad happened. Now you're alone without your best friend to talk about your feelings with.

These tips should help you to get back in touch with your ex and begin the process of winning their heart back. You should be able to, step by step, rebuild your relationship from here on out if you're patient with your ex. There will be days when the waiting will feel unbearable and moments when you're going to be tempted to try to call your ex again. Avoid that temptation and remember what you have learned here about how to get your ex to talk to you again.




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