Here are a couple of important steps for crafting your strong, red-hot 'why':
1. Develop Your Statement. First, think about the statement itself. It could be one word; it could be a sentence; it may be a paragraph. Heck, write a book. It doesn't matter how long it is. It's your own personal 'why' statement, and it's what will keep you going when you think about quitting.
Let's say your goal is to get in shape. The reason why you would like to get in better shape is because you would like to see your children graduate from high school. But you're worried because you had someone in your family who was not in good shape, and they developed heart disease and passed away at a young age.
Maybe your goal is to begin a new career path. You have been working for a good company for many years, but you'd like to begin your own speaking career. The reason 'why' you want to get into public speaking is because you beat cancer five years ago, and you want to inspire others who are facing the same adversity you faced. That is where your real passion lies.
Whatever that 'why' is for you, jot it down and internalize it so that it can be what drives you whenever you think you've run out of gas.
Take a Picture. Once you've found your purpose, your strong, red-hot 'why,' it's time to picture it-literally. If you want to get healthy for your kids, take a picture of your kids and make lots of copies. Then put that picture everywhere you will see it on a daily basis. Tape it to the dashboard of your vehicle. Put it on your bathroom mirror so you have to see it every morning when you turn the light on and every night before you go to bed. The point is to keep your strong, red-hot 'why' as visual as possible to continually remind you why you are doing what you're doing.
3. Avoid Pain Vs. Gain Pleasure. As you develop your 'why' statement, it's also important to understand NLP, which stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. NLP teaches us that we make decisions for only two reasons: To avoid pain or to gain pleasure. And for most people, the desire to avoid pain generally outweighs the desire to gain pleasure.
Let us take at look at working out. The pleasurable part of exercising is the end result, which is looking great and feeling good. But people fall off exercise plans all the time. Why? The pleasure of looking good isn't enough to motivate a lot of us. The desire to avoid pain is simply a stronger pull.
If you would like to exercise more, but you just cannot stick with it, then you have got to shift your thinking. Sure, exercising may be hard for a couple of minutes, but think about how much pain you could avoid in the future by working out now. You'll greatly decrease your risk of heart disease and probably live a longer, less painful life.
The point here is that you will stick with something more to avoid a pain then to gain a pleasure. If you can associate some great pain with not following through on what you're trying to achieve, then it will be easier to stay focused on your goal.
I was recently part of a team hired to help motivate the participants of a weight loss competition for a Las Vegas magazine. They had a personal trainer for their workouts and a nutritionist for their meals. It was my job to get them thinking right and to act as their achievement coach. The first thing I told them was this: "You must look at this quest as a gift that you're giving to yourself. You're giving yourself the gift of health."
1. Develop Your Statement. First, think about the statement itself. It could be one word; it could be a sentence; it may be a paragraph. Heck, write a book. It doesn't matter how long it is. It's your own personal 'why' statement, and it's what will keep you going when you think about quitting.
Let's say your goal is to get in shape. The reason why you would like to get in better shape is because you would like to see your children graduate from high school. But you're worried because you had someone in your family who was not in good shape, and they developed heart disease and passed away at a young age.
Maybe your goal is to begin a new career path. You have been working for a good company for many years, but you'd like to begin your own speaking career. The reason 'why' you want to get into public speaking is because you beat cancer five years ago, and you want to inspire others who are facing the same adversity you faced. That is where your real passion lies.
Whatever that 'why' is for you, jot it down and internalize it so that it can be what drives you whenever you think you've run out of gas.
Take a Picture. Once you've found your purpose, your strong, red-hot 'why,' it's time to picture it-literally. If you want to get healthy for your kids, take a picture of your kids and make lots of copies. Then put that picture everywhere you will see it on a daily basis. Tape it to the dashboard of your vehicle. Put it on your bathroom mirror so you have to see it every morning when you turn the light on and every night before you go to bed. The point is to keep your strong, red-hot 'why' as visual as possible to continually remind you why you are doing what you're doing.
3. Avoid Pain Vs. Gain Pleasure. As you develop your 'why' statement, it's also important to understand NLP, which stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming. NLP teaches us that we make decisions for only two reasons: To avoid pain or to gain pleasure. And for most people, the desire to avoid pain generally outweighs the desire to gain pleasure.
Let us take at look at working out. The pleasurable part of exercising is the end result, which is looking great and feeling good. But people fall off exercise plans all the time. Why? The pleasure of looking good isn't enough to motivate a lot of us. The desire to avoid pain is simply a stronger pull.
If you would like to exercise more, but you just cannot stick with it, then you have got to shift your thinking. Sure, exercising may be hard for a couple of minutes, but think about how much pain you could avoid in the future by working out now. You'll greatly decrease your risk of heart disease and probably live a longer, less painful life.
The point here is that you will stick with something more to avoid a pain then to gain a pleasure. If you can associate some great pain with not following through on what you're trying to achieve, then it will be easier to stay focused on your goal.
I was recently part of a team hired to help motivate the participants of a weight loss competition for a Las Vegas magazine. They had a personal trainer for their workouts and a nutritionist for their meals. It was my job to get them thinking right and to act as their achievement coach. The first thing I told them was this: "You must look at this quest as a gift that you're giving to yourself. You're giving yourself the gift of health."
About the Author:
James Malinchak, Highlighted on ABC's Hit Tv Show Secret Millionaire, is considered by many people industry experts as the World's #1 Big Money Speaker Coach and Trainer. For Free Video Trainings concerning how to get money to speak and ways to be a inspirational speaker, take a look at http://www.millionairespeakersecrets.com/.
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