Sunday, 27 December 2009

I Need Body Language Advice

By Alan Bentley

Self-confidence can be something difficult to achieve and it seems especially so when we are overly nervous and excited about our new date ahead. Is it going to develop into something special and long-lasting, for a change? Those butterflies in the stomach feel very real right now. How are you going to project yourself and what will this guy think of you after that first encounter?

Worrying about everything is not advantageous, but if you do this anyway then you might want to seek some body language advice before you go out. After all, you don't want him to come away with a really bad impression of you, just because of the way that you portray yourself, do you?

Body language advice tells you that you need to exhibit a dominant position and that this will naturally convey confidence and show that you are very happy and at ease with yourself. While we may be able to talk ourselves around any situation, the picture always tells 1000 words and in this case if you are not giving off the right body language, subconsciously this could all fail.

As human beings, we all have the ability to assess the make up of someone we meet for the first time, even if we don't realize it. We make assumptions based on the "vibes" that we feel and as much of this is derived from the way that we present ourselves, body language advice is often sought.

If you are trying to pick up some body language advice, you should really ensure that you maintain eye contact with the person you are talking to at all times. This is so essential, but many people fall down here. This is a deliberate action and you should never let your gaze go until he does first. After all, if you look away first it is seen as a sign of submission.

Don't be rude when you are talking to somebody and focus on other things, be they checking your mail, writing a text, watching the TV or cooking something on the stove. You need to give that person your undivided attention, quite apart from it being rude not to do so.

If you tend to slouch when you are standing or sitting, you need to pay attention to your posture as this is very important when you meet somebody. You could find that you are not devoting enough of your time to your workout regime, which will naturally help you to compose yourself better. Stand really tall and take a deep breath and see how much better you feel.

Don't rely on nervous gestures to help you through a potentially awkward moment! You have to find an inner sense of calm before you interact with people, most especially on your first date. All those twitchy, tapping hand gestures and other movements can be very offputting!

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