Are you willing to get your ex back and wondering how is it possible? Well here are the three proven techniques of getting your ex back. You have to start with the most important thing which is figuring out what went wrong between you two.
It is necessary to find the cause if you want to find the cure. Consider the situation, take up responsibility of what went wrong from your side. Honesty will play a vital role in it so it is best you stick to it. Generally there are three grounds for why relationships end.
*You wronged your mate.
*Your mate wronged you.
*Relationship drift-your mate is not as close to you as it used to be.
Secondly you must understand that each of the above grounds requires you to act differently and accordingly. Apologizing will not work, if your mate is not into you anymore as a result of relationship drift. It will be of help only for the first ground when you have wronged your mate. For a start, you can try find out and admit what went wrong and then plan out how can you get your ex back.
The third proven technique is to plan out your actions and steps. This article is too short to cover the plan of actions required in each of the grounds mentioned earlier. Let's say you wronged your mate. This includes you cheated on them, fought with them, did not pay them enough attention etc.
So now the question is how you can get your ex back once you have wronged them. Here are the seven proven steps to your rescue if you are stuck in such a situation. These steps are so useful that sometimes you can get your ex back in just few days or even hours. If even four or five of these steps are followed effectively there are chances you might get back with your ex.
The first step is to admit your fault. Talk to your mate and tell them that you realize you have wronged them. This is much better than saying "yes I have wronged you but it was because you were so cold to me".....
In the first step, it will be best for you if you don't argue, justify or defend yourself. This will do you more harm than good. You are required to simply admit your fault, that's quite it. Your ex should know that you know how to take up responsibility for your actions and you know how to admit your mistake. By doing this you will give them a chance to forgive you. How can they forgive you unless they know you are sorry for what you did and admit your mistake.
Secondly you are expected to understand what they feel. Tell them,"I know what you are going through and I know I have hurt you, broken your trust and wronged you". This will give them the assurance that you actually understand how they feel.
This step brings us to the third step. The third step is to be quite and patient and listen to your mate. Ask them what are they feeling and then just let them say what they want to. Let them open up to you and tell what they are going through. No arguments no defending and no justification, all that is required of you is listening. If you are able to follow these three steps effectively before you apologize, then it is quite possible you ex will forgive you and get back with you.
It is necessary to find the cause if you want to find the cure. Consider the situation, take up responsibility of what went wrong from your side. Honesty will play a vital role in it so it is best you stick to it. Generally there are three grounds for why relationships end.
*You wronged your mate.
*Your mate wronged you.
*Relationship drift-your mate is not as close to you as it used to be.
Secondly you must understand that each of the above grounds requires you to act differently and accordingly. Apologizing will not work, if your mate is not into you anymore as a result of relationship drift. It will be of help only for the first ground when you have wronged your mate. For a start, you can try find out and admit what went wrong and then plan out how can you get your ex back.
The third proven technique is to plan out your actions and steps. This article is too short to cover the plan of actions required in each of the grounds mentioned earlier. Let's say you wronged your mate. This includes you cheated on them, fought with them, did not pay them enough attention etc.
So now the question is how you can get your ex back once you have wronged them. Here are the seven proven steps to your rescue if you are stuck in such a situation. These steps are so useful that sometimes you can get your ex back in just few days or even hours. If even four or five of these steps are followed effectively there are chances you might get back with your ex.
The first step is to admit your fault. Talk to your mate and tell them that you realize you have wronged them. This is much better than saying "yes I have wronged you but it was because you were so cold to me".....
In the first step, it will be best for you if you don't argue, justify or defend yourself. This will do you more harm than good. You are required to simply admit your fault, that's quite it. Your ex should know that you know how to take up responsibility for your actions and you know how to admit your mistake. By doing this you will give them a chance to forgive you. How can they forgive you unless they know you are sorry for what you did and admit your mistake.
Secondly you are expected to understand what they feel. Tell them,"I know what you are going through and I know I have hurt you, broken your trust and wronged you". This will give them the assurance that you actually understand how they feel.
This step brings us to the third step. The third step is to be quite and patient and listen to your mate. Ask them what are they feeling and then just let them say what they want to. Let them open up to you and tell what they are going through. No arguments no defending and no justification, all that is required of you is listening. If you are able to follow these three steps effectively before you apologize, then it is quite possible you ex will forgive you and get back with you.
About the Author:
You can discover more about venting and the other Immediate Reconnect Strategies to get your ex back in a free course about Get Your Ex Back In One Day. Hans S Delane teaches relationship and emotional intelligence courses and you can get the free course Getting Your Ex Back Fast here at Relationship Help Tips.
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