Saturday, 25 July 2009

5 Mistakes That Can Be Costly When Trying To Get Back Together With Your Ex

By Ryse Edwards

Be careful, while getting back with your ex, there are five costly mistakes to avoid. It is possible that the things you choose to do will place your relationship in harms way. You should always avoid these mistakes rather than trying to appear as if perfect.

1. Backpedal into the Past

If you are going to get back together, you are going to have to start all over. Going right back to where you left off is only setting yourself up for failure. Make a commitment to change and actually make things different from when the relationship ended. You will have to truly make an effort to get the relationship to work.

2. Stop sweating over the small things

Every relationship faces small issues you cannot control them. Never waste your time while worrying over such issues within the relationship. You must let them go. You will never be able to get back together with your ex if you are not able to deal with such small issues on your own. Simply learn to live while dealing with these issues.

3. Resisting Change

For the most part, people do not break up a relationship when they are at fault. If you have done something to cause the breakup, swallow that pride and make the needed changes. If you resist change and only regress back to the old ways of doing things, the relationship has not where to go.

4. Causing the Ex Stress

Causing your ex stress by being overly aggressive as well as harassing them will not help you get back together. Doing so only reduces your chances of getting back together. Bitter aggression will only strain your relationship. Learn to loosen up and relax. Take the time to truly listen to the things your ex has to say. Allow the lines of communication to stay open. This will help you both understand each other while trying to work things out between you and your ex.

5. Move On with Your Life

Perhaps the last tip you want to hear when trying to get back together with your ex is to move on. However, if your ex has showed signs of moving on, you will want to do the same. If the two of you are meant for each other it will happen down the road. The best thing you can do if they have found a new partner is to find someone else yourself. This will show them you are not reliant on them and you can find others as well.

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