You've been seeing each other for a while and it seems that, with each moment spent, the two of you are getting closer on all levels. You're pretty certain that he might be "the one" but, yet, every time the subject of making things permanent comes up he seems to hesitate or even pull back. So you find yourself asking: How can I get him to commit to me? I thought I had met my soul mate.
You were hoping he would say "Yes" immediately to your inquiry about whether or not the relationship is going anywhere. Instead, he may be holding back, not because he doesn't care about you, but may not want to get hurt down the road. Here are 4 things that will help you in getting him to the next level in your relationship.
1. Timing is everything - If you are going to bring up "forever" doing it while driving, watching television or online is probably not going to be conducive to getting the response you want. Pick a quiet moment when there are no distractions, no schedules or time frames, just the two of you and ask him why the two of you can't be like this forever.
2. Be aware of your body language - Nothing tells all like bad body language. Your body language has so much information in it that you may not be aware of. Folded arms across your chest suggests 'closed' and defensive.
3. Be honest - Now that you have brought it up and he's responding like a deer in the headlights, it is time for you to let him digest the issue. It is also time to really be honest with him about how you feel in the relationship with him. This is when he may really start to open up and be truthful about what he fears most about commitment. It could be that he was the victim in a breakup and was very hurt by it. Now is your big opportunity to make him know how much he really means to you.
4. The time is right - Even if it turns out that he is unready, unwilling or unable to give you the answer you were hoping for, at the very least, you can make a realistic decision whether to stay with things as they are or move on to find that special spiritual link that your heart calls for.
Making a decision to commit yourself, heart and soul, to another person can be the most magical thing a person can do. Yet the process is not magic but merely the art of using your own senses and feelings to navigate the uncertain waters of romance to the blissful shores of forever.
You were hoping he would say "Yes" immediately to your inquiry about whether or not the relationship is going anywhere. Instead, he may be holding back, not because he doesn't care about you, but may not want to get hurt down the road. Here are 4 things that will help you in getting him to the next level in your relationship.
1. Timing is everything - If you are going to bring up "forever" doing it while driving, watching television or online is probably not going to be conducive to getting the response you want. Pick a quiet moment when there are no distractions, no schedules or time frames, just the two of you and ask him why the two of you can't be like this forever.
2. Be aware of your body language - Nothing tells all like bad body language. Your body language has so much information in it that you may not be aware of. Folded arms across your chest suggests 'closed' and defensive.
3. Be honest - Now that you have brought it up and he's responding like a deer in the headlights, it is time for you to let him digest the issue. It is also time to really be honest with him about how you feel in the relationship with him. This is when he may really start to open up and be truthful about what he fears most about commitment. It could be that he was the victim in a breakup and was very hurt by it. Now is your big opportunity to make him know how much he really means to you.
4. The time is right - Even if it turns out that he is unready, unwilling or unable to give you the answer you were hoping for, at the very least, you can make a realistic decision whether to stay with things as they are or move on to find that special spiritual link that your heart calls for.
Making a decision to commit yourself, heart and soul, to another person can be the most magical thing a person can do. Yet the process is not magic but merely the art of using your own senses and feelings to navigate the uncertain waters of romance to the blissful shores of forever.
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